You Find Out Who Your Friends Are from FemaleSatan's blog

Friend is a rather vacuous term in today's society isn't it? It doesn't denote someone that is part of your tribe, it denotes someone that you know passingly to most. It's become a bullshit term. A term that is thrown around, used by people to get, get, get, not necessarily give back. 


A term that is used to exert control, to force a conformity on you, that quite simply, I can't abide at times. It makes me angry to see this happen and it happens everywhere. 


Now, I don't view friendship in terms of when I am doing well. The frank truth is when you are riding high, everyone likes you. When you have, people love the shit outta you. 


When I contemplate who my friends are, I think about the other times. The times the shit hit the fan. Who had my back? Who was there for me when I was at my lowest? 


That's a short list, a very short list. People that were there not because I had something that they wanted but because I was one of theirs. A resonance that is borne of something deeper than just a friendship. A moment of commonality and companionship that runs deeper than any of the hubris that it defined as friendship by most. 


It's something simple and something indescribably deep in places. A knowing, that this person would actually be there for me, they have already been there for me and in return I will be there for me when they fall down and have their bad moment. 


Not to gain but because by knowing them I have gained something precious and irreplaceable. I gained a tribe. So I have no choice but to honor that bond, not out of a loss of freewill or a need to conform but because finding that with someone else, anybody else in a World where most people lack the ability to do that on such a fundamental level, is to precious to violate the terms of that silent agreement you made at that moment.


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Nith
Oct 27 '13
A friend is more than someone who will back you when the shit hits the fan. They are also the ones that say when you are the one in the wrong. I see single sided friends as just as bad as fair weather friends in this way. The sign that the friendship is two way can be shown by those I listen what they have to say, even if I disagree.

Although the term friend has been down graded like the difference between knowing someone and knowing of them, there are sill those that not only know the difference but use and state it.
A friend is more than someone who will back you when the shit hits the fan. They are also the ones that say when you are the one in the wrong. I see single sided friends as just as bad as fair weather...See more
LeDeluge
Oct 27 '13
The term "friend" is overused. Hell, it has become a rhetorical device in many ways. A true friendship is indeed a two way street. I've had the same core group of friends for many years. An important part of friendship is a willingness to act as a check and balance. I accept the counsel of friends and will give the same when I see something going woefully wrong. Without this mutual bond, you have nothing. I am there for my friends as they are for me.The term "friend" is overused. Hell, it has become a rhetorical device in many ways. A true friendship is indeed a two way street. I've had the same core group of friends for many years. An ...See more
AnnaCzereda
Oct 28 '13
You know what we often say in Poland? Dear God, save us from our friends and we will handle our enemies without your help. It is so true when I think about this. We see our enemies for what they are but we prefer to see our friends through the rosy glasses. And when these glasses break, it is a painful experience.

There were four of us, close friends. We met each other at the university and knew each other for almost ten years. Two years ago, two of my friends quarrelled and there remained three of us. A couple of months ago, I fell out with my friend and now there are two of them. How long before there is only one? I may never know.

The most annoying thing in all of this is that I have no idea what has happened. Suddenly, it all fell apart like a house of cards. Perhaps, we have never been friends. Who knows?
You know what we often say in Poland? Dear God, save us from our friends and we will handle our enemies without your help. It is so true when I think about this. We see our enemies for what they are b...See more
FemaleSatan
Oct 29 '13
Wow, Dimitiri, you managed to miss the point yet again.

Humans are social and your point was addressed in the first part of this blog. Don't worry, nobody ever gave you reading comprehensions points.
FemaleSatan
Oct 29 '13
No, your point isn't spot on man. I handle myself just fine. Everyone has a point in life when they get to a low point. This blog is about that and it's something you are incapable of doing: it's honest.

It's says 'hey sometimes I need people.' It touches on the concept of tribe and honor, other points you missed in you insatiable need to show me you are better.

Why don't you quit frontin' for once Mr. I Want People to Think I am Perfect. If you ain't fucked up in your life, you ain't lived. It's what happens AFTER you fuck up that matters and sometimes a realization comes from that.

Thus the motherfucking blog..
No, your point isn't spot on man. I handle myself just fine. Everyone has a point in life when they get to a low point. This blog is about that and it's something you are incapable of doing: it's hone...See more
LeDeluge
Oct 29 '13
If there was a perfect, I'd never want to reach it. If there was consensus, I would certainly demur. If you find a true friend, embrace. It only happens a few times along this mortal coil.
FemaleSatan
Oct 29 '13


Every time I post about my walk YOU want to come in and say shit like this. WTF?

Walk the walk? Check? Talking about it afterwards, I do that as well. Just because I talk about it doesn't mean I am doing it any less than you are, duh.

Do you realize coming on the internet to say ' Less talk, more walk.' is stupid? This is a place to TALK about things.


Every time I post about my walk YOU want to come in and say shit like this. WTF?

Walk the walk? Check? Talking about it afterwards, I do that as well. Just because I ta...See more
FemaleSatan
Oct 29 '13
D00d, there's a difference between coming in with an actual point and doing what you do.

You had no point, just the same rehashed shit from every other time you attempt to pwn me. I don't think you even know what you are saying, hell half the time it doesn't apply to the conversation at hand.

This comment section is a great example of that. YOU come in and tell me to man up (basically) for starters. I explain the why behind the blog. You fall back on the less talk, more walk bullshit you like to spout. I explain that this blog is ABOUT my walk. You follow it up with this. You are the one that brought up less talk, more walk not me.

You don't get what's being said. This makes the majority of your criticism invalid. Which is a constant for you. It must suck to try so hard to be taken seriously and be viewed as some hardcore Sinister motherfucker and have most people just laugh when you start talking.
D00d, there's a difference between coming in with an actual point and doing what you do.

You had no point, just the same rehashed shit from every other time you attempt to pwn me. I do...See more
Dan_Dread
Oct 29 '13
Men that live in empty houses are in no position to critique other peoples decor.
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